Have you ever wondered if you should start therapy? 5 Signs You Might Be Ready to Start
Let’s be real, most people don’t Google “Should I go to therapy?” because everything’s going perfectly.
More often, it starts with something like:
“Why do I cry when someone doesn’t text back?”
“Why do I feel so overwhelmed all the time?”
“Is it normal to be this angry at my mom… when I’m 31?”
(Answer: Yes. Very normal.)
If you’ve found yourself quietly wondering, “Do I need therapy?” or “Is what I’m feeling serious enough?” this post is for you. I want to normalize the in-between moments that bring people to therapy. Those moments where things aren’t necessarily falling apart, maybe you’re not in crisis, but things also feel a little… off.
Here are five signs you might be ready to start therapy, even if you’re still on the fence.
1. You’ve outgrown your usual coping tools (aka “I can’t just journal this away anymore”)
Maybe you used to go on a walk, Facetime a friend, or binge a new Netflix series and feel better. But lately, it’s like nothing touches the deeper stuff. You might feel stuck in your head, stuck in the past, or like the same emotional patterns keep recycling no matter what you do.
When the self-help tools stop helping, that’s often a sign your nervous system wants to process something deeper. That’s where therapy can step in, especially if you're exhausted from trying to figure it out all on your own.
2. You keep hearing “You’re so strong!” but you’re tired of always being the strong one
If you’ve been praised for how capable, responsible, or “put together” you are, but inside you feel anxious, resentful, or like you’re barely keeping it together, therapy might feel like a relief.
Therapy gives you a space to be a whole human being, not just the reliable and strong one. You don’t have to be the strong friend here. You don’t need to worry about me. You just get to be.
3. You're cycling through the same relationships, patterns, or spirals
Same argument with your partner. Same friendship dynamic where you give more than you get. Same internal loop of “I’m not enough,” followed by three hours of spiraling on the couch while watching cooking videos of things you’ll never actually cook.
If you keep thinking, “Why does this keep happening?” therapy helps you find the why. But more importantly, it helps you change it.
4. Life transitions are feeling heavier than expected
New baby. Ending a relationship. Leaving your job. Becoming a parent. Watching your parent age. Even “happy” transitions like getting married or starting a business can stir up anxiety, identity shifts, and grief.
Therapy can help you hold space for both the excitement and the fear. The gratitude and the overwhelm. No judgment. No toxic positivity.
5. You just want someone to talk to who isn’t in your group chat
Sometimes you don’t need a crisis or a diagnosis. You just need a place where you don’t have to explain or perform. You get to show up as-is: sweats, unbrushed hair, racing thoughts and all.
And honestly? That’s more than enough of a reason to go to therapy.
Okay, but how do I know if I need therapy?
If you're reading this and nodding along, that's your sign. You don’t have to be in crisis to benefit. You just have to be human and maybe a little tired of managing it all on your own.
Whether you’re processing trauma, navigating motherhood, healing from betrayal, or learning to stop spiraling every time someone doesn’t use an exclamation mark in a text, I’m here for it.
If you’re ready to take the next step, you can learn more about working with me here. Or just send me a text to schedule your consult. No pressure. No scary forms. Just one human to another, saying it’s okay to ask for help.
You're allowed to want more ease in your life! And you’re allowed to start today.
